They were going to jump, but I talked them off the ledge.

There they were standing there, ready to jump at a moments’ notice. They weren’t afraid and did not give any thought to how it would make others feel. They were going to jump unless some drastic measures were taken. At first, I almost gave in and let them jump. I was on board with their cause, I understood where they were coming from. I had been in this position before and had seen many jump to their demise. Suddenly, my subconscious kicked in with the thoughts that I had recently planted in it. These were not the thoughts from the past, these were new and strong. I kicked into action. I started allowing the new thoughts to take over, I was on automatic, just letting the new thoughts roll.

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What I was talking off the ledge were my actions. I had just had a conversation with my husband and I had made assumptions about a certain situation. I was about 30 minutes from home and on my way home, I had to talk myself off that ledge. I was going to go home and accuse him of such and such. The old selfishness and insecurities were gaining strength. I had to stop them. If not, I would get home and the fight would be on.

I started questioning my accusations that were swirling in my head. Are these thoughts reality? Does his past actions coincide with today’s accusations toward him? As I started to honestly answer these questions and remind myself of how I am supposed to treat my husband, I started to calm down. I started to back away from the ledge. I reminded myself of the new ideas that I had learned from the book, “Love Life for Every Married Couple” by Ed Wheat and Gloria Okes Perkins. These ideas were a new way to love my spouse that I had not used before and they are great. I have noticed a lot of change in myself and how my husband responds to me when I follow this new way of loving him. I continued to replay the words from the book in my mind. When I arrived at home, I did not start in on my husband, but met him with a smile and open arms. He returned the gesture. At least one unnecessary blow up had been avoided simply because I took the time to think about my actions and what they were going to do. The fight really would have been unnecessary because in the grand scheme of things it didn’t matter anyway.

Inviting Excellence into our Life is about becoming our best at everything we do. Part of that is filling our minds with the correct tools to counter destructive thought patterns. I would love to hear what tools you are using. I am always looking for new ideas and suggestions to be a better me. Remember to go out and share your AWESOME this week.

What are your words saying about you?

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Have you ever judged someone by the words they use? I have. When someone starts to talk you can almost instantly form an opinion about their manners, respect of others, empathy, spirituality, and even intelligence. These are exactly the times when I have to start the self-talk about not being judgmental. Being judgmental is one of the areas I am concentrating on improving this year.

The language that we use let’s others know almost immediately what is in our hearts. Our words can are very powerful. In just a few words we can build someone up or tear them to shreds. I have been on the receiving end of that a few times and it is not pleasant. Do you remember a time in your life when someone said something to you that pierced your heart or painfully wounded you? If so, remember how that felt when you get ready to speak to someone. Never do anything while you are angry or hurt, especially go on the attack to someone.

Our words to others should always be pleasant even when we have to give constructive feedback. Whether it is our spouse, children, family member or co-worker, choose your words carefully. We can easily pierce someone’s self-respect and dignity without even realizing it. Our words show the world who we are and what our heart contains. It is wise to fill our hearts with only loving, constructive, positive, and productive thoughts.

Take some time this week to watch your words and see how they affect others. Make it a point to share some encouraging words to others on purpose and see what their response is. Filling our hearts with great and powerful thoughts that encourage and support others is another way to Invite Excellence into your Life. Have a fantastic week and be all that God made you to be.

Guess what I get to do?

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For the next couple of days I want you to check something. See how many times you say, “I’ve go to …….” I’ve got to go to the store. I’ve got to pay the bills. I’ve got to work. I’ve got to cook supper. Ok, so where I am going with this. Think about this for a minute. What if instead of saying, “I’ve got to” you use the term, “I get to.” I get to cook a healthy meal for my family, there are many who go hungry. I get to go to work, so I can pay my bills there are many without jobs. I have money in my pocket, so I get to go to the store and buy food. I get to workout in the morning there are many who are ill and can’t get up. Do you see how changing that one word in our vocabulary can change our entire perception of events in our lives?

Our thoughts become words, our words become actions. If we are going to change our actions this year it has to start with changing our thoughts, then our words. Take the time this week to see how purposely watching our words changes our perceptions. You will have to give it some thought, which is a good way to reflect on how we see the events in our lives. This one little change will lead to dramatic changes in your outlook. Leave me a message about the changes you see in your life from this one switch. This is one of the small ways you can Invite Excellence into Your Life and become all God has called you to be.

Success starts in the mind.

We’ve all been there, we have a great idea that we want to pursue, then it happens. The enemy starts the assault. What makes you think you can do that? Nobody will buy that product. No one will come listen to you speak about that. You can’t go back to school now,you’re too old. It’s too late in life for you to accomplish your dreams. Does this sound familiar? This is where the battle begins, in the mind.

Those who are successful and have accomplished their goals in life have done so in spite of the enemies attacks. Don’t think that they have not had the same feelings and thoughts as you, because they have. If you are a human being walking this earth then you have been attacked by negative, fearful thoughts.

Ok, so we know we have them, what do we do about them? The first step is realizing that the thoughts are just thoughts and you can change them. When you come under attack, call the enemy a liar and announce to him the truth. The truth is that you are just as capable as anyone else who has succeeded. Successful people don’t have superpowers that we don’t, they just don’t believe the lies. They believe in themselves, their ideas and they proceed with a plan and do it afraid.

All success starts in the mind. You must be willing to fight the battle in the mind. It is not a one time battle. It is a daily battle. Pick up your knowledge of truth and begin to do battle. You are worth it. You can accomplish everything God has laid on your heart to do. We hold ourselves back from the truth. Don ‘t do this anymore. You are an amazing person who has a purpose, go be your destiny!

Attacking the enemy from all sides. Part 2

We are continuing our quests to overcome our enemies of the mind which are negativity and fear. We previously discussed turning off the TV, especially the news and listening to audio books during our commutes. The third item on the list is books. When you turn the TV off, pick up a book and begin to fill your mind with positive, encouraging, and supportive words. Jon Acuff’s book, “Start” is a good read. If you are wanting to start a new endeavor and are having attacks from the enemy pick up the book, “The War of Art”, by Steven Pressfield. Read the book of Proverbs from the bible or “The Power of Positive Thinking”, by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. Put the newspaper down and pick up something encouraging. You will be amazed at how your thoughts can be re-trained.

Positive thinking will let you do everything

better than negative thinking will. 

Zig Ziglar

The fourth way is people. As you start to implement these processes you will notice that your thoughts are changing. You will also notice how those around you can have an affect on your outlook. The next time you are in a setting of negative people notice how you can easily get pulled in to the conversation and it can immediately take you into the everything stinks mindset. Jim Rohn has said that we are the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with. Who are you surrounding yourself with? You may have to find some new friends. On Twitter, I follow those who exude positive and encouraging tweets. I refuse to let people bring me down by pessimistic or discouraging remarks. Why would you want to? I’m not talking about putting your head in the sand to our surroundings, but you can accomplish a whole lot more with a positive attitude then you can with a negative attitude. It’s a choice and the choice is yours.

I choose to hang out with a supportive group on 48Days.net because their drive, optimism, and success is contagious. I love their positive outlook and encouragement. You can choose the same thing for your life. Find those who support you and your dreams. Take time this week and pay attention to the attitudes of those you are with the most. Are they supporting you or bringing you down? Don’t forget to read a great book too!! Invite Excellence into Your Life and have an AWESOME week.

Are you herding cats?

Have you ever heard the term, “herding cats”? I have actually stopped and visualized this process from time to time. It brings quite a smile to my face. Unfortunately, this term can also be used in reference to our thoughts. We at times allow our thoughts to run uncontrolled. When we do this it causes havoc in our lives.

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I think back to Proverbs 29:17, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” The same thing is true for our thoughts. If we don’t learn to control and discipline our thoughts, they will in turn control us. You will have no peace in your life until you teach your mind the correct way to think.

I am sure to some this sounds silly. That you don’t have to teach your mind how to think, but actually it is the most important thing you will ever do in your life. When your mind learns the correct way to think, it will be life changing. This will affect the way you respond to every aspect of your life. Kent Julian teaches us the E+ R = O formula. Events plus response equals outcome. Your thoughts control the outcome of every event in your life. It is your response to those events that is the key.

For this week, take time to notice your thoughts. Are your thoughts positive? Are they bringing you closer to your goals? Are they going to bring peace in your life? If they are great, if not get to work on changing the way you think. You can begin by reading, “The Power of Positive Thinking”, by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. This is one of the first steps of Inviting Excellence into your life. Let me know other ways that you control your thoughts. Leave me a comment and share some ideas.

Don’t let your emotions cause you to be “too helpful”.

When our thoughts are based on emotions, we must be aware that they can be misleading us. I am a mother of 3 children and they certainly can play on my emotions. Recently, the youngest has been struggling with some separation anxiety. As a mother, I want to help him with this situation. This is the time when we must slow down and look at all options. During my option seeking, I recalled a great story about being helpful.

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A gentleman caught a caterpillar and placed it in a container. He waited patiently as the caterpillar went through its stages of transforming into the cocoon. Finally one day, he began to notice movement from the cocoon. He noticed a tiny slit in the side of the cocoon. Day after day, the new butterfly inside worked until exhausted to escape from within. The butterfly struggled and struggled to squeeze through the far too small hole. Then the man had an idea. He would help the butterfly with his struggle. He took a very small pair of scissors and gently snipped the side of the cocoon. Then he waited. The next time the butterfly began its miraculous escape it succeeded. To the man’s surprise, the butterfly did not look right. The wings were tiny and the body appeared larger than normal. As the man watched, the butterfly tried and tried to fly, but could not. Its wings were in fact too small for the unnaturally large body. Not long after that, the butterfly died.

What the man did not realize was, the butterfly needed that struggle in its life to become what it was meant to be. That struggle causes the fluid in its body to be pushed out and into its wings. We have to be mindful not to be “too helpful” in others lives as well. Although we mean well, that struggle may be causing the natural growth process that is needed for that person to become who God meant them to be.

Is there someone in your life that you may be “too helpful” with? It’s a fine line. Give it some thought this week.