Is worry stealing your success?

Lori Vowels Photography

Lori Vowels Photography

When you wake up in the morning, what are the first thoughts that go through your mind? Are you being thankful for the day or are you starting to think about all the things that need to be accomplished? The habits that we create are going to create a path of success or lead to a life of status quo.

The need for new habits

When we wake up in the morning and we allow our mind to be filled with the worries of the day, the week, or even the month, we are setting ourselves up for failure. Worrying is a habit that we have allowed ourselves to create over time. Worrying is stealing our time and future. The very first thing we should do when we wake up in the morning is think of 3 things that we are grateful for in our life. This will get our mindset on the positives in life instead of the negatives.

Create new habits

Instead of worrying, we should be spending this time learning or creating. Don’t sit and worry about things that you cannot control, this is a waste of our valuable time. Let’s make new habits. The next time thoughts start to creep into your mind that are going to try and steal your time, kick them out by listening to a podcast that is creative and positive.

If you are not a podcast listener, then pick up a good book, or go for a walk. While you are walking pay attention to the trees and birds. Try to notice your surroundings, this is called being mindful. It’s about being in the here and now. Spend this time thinking of creative ways you could increase your learning. Take a college course, sign up for a yoga class, learn about meditation, do something that will stimulate your mind and take your mind off the worry.

Worry is a self-defeating habit. If you must worry then set a clock and allow yourself 15 minutes to worry, then stop and get on with your day. If we are to be successful and become everything God designed us to be, we are going to have to quit worrying and make other more productive items our priorities.

Instead of worrying, go out today and share how AWESOME you are with the world. Be an example to others of what a worry free (at least worry less) life looks life.

My wish for you.

I drove about 45 minutes to a funeral home the other day. The mother of one of the girls I work with had passed away. Typically when I drive, I either have the radio off and enjoy the quiet or I listen to podcasts. This particular day I plugged in my iphone because the battery was running low. When I plugged it in, the music on the iphone began to play. I decided to listen to some of the music this particular day and just enjoy the scenery. I did this on the way to the funeral home and on the way back. About 15 minutes before I got home, the song, “My Wish”, by Rascal Flatts began to play. I think this is the first time I had really focused on the words to the song. As I listened, my mind went to my soon to be 18 year old daughter, Cammy. The words in the song are what I wanted to tell her. That her dreams stay big and her worries stay small. That wherever she goes she knows that she is loved. (Click for lyrics.)

Before I knew it, tears were rolling down my face. I wasn’t sad about her becoming 18  or that she would soon be moving out and on with her life. I was sad because I thought about all of the time I had wasted not being fully present in her life. I always had the future or a worry on my mind. When I prepared for special occasions at my house it was usually last minute and thrown together. I always seemed to be busy to sit down and plan. This is one thing that I want to change in my life. I want to enjoy today. I want to enjoy the present. I want to enjoy my kids. The fact that I recognize this flaw is a start.

I know I am changing as a person and growing in new ways every day. I have become an avid reader. I mainly read about things that I want to change in me. Then, I pray. Becoming aware of where we need to grow is instrumental in growth. We shouldn’t beat ourselves up over these things that we need to change, but be aware and learn about them.

One way to be mindful and fully present in the moment is to notice things around you. Stop and notice the trees. Notice the leaves on the trees and the intricate details. Notice what your kids are doing. Watch the expressions on their face. Notice their smiles. Listen to the difference in their laughs. Be present in the moment. Are there other ways that you are present in the moment? What can you do to be more mindful of your surroundings? Take a break this week and see if you are living in the moment.