There they were standing there, ready to jump at a moments’ notice. They weren’t afraid and did not give any thought to how it would make others feel. They were going to jump unless some drastic measures were taken. At first, I almost gave in and let them jump. I was on board with their cause, I understood where they were coming from. I had been in this position before and had seen many jump to their demise. Suddenly, my subconscious kicked in with the thoughts that I had recently planted in it. These were not the thoughts from the past, these were new and strong. I kicked into action. I started allowing the new thoughts to take over, I was on automatic, just letting the new thoughts roll.
What I was talking off the ledge were my actions. I had just had a conversation with my husband and I had made assumptions about a certain situation. I was about 30 minutes from home and on my way home, I had to talk myself off that ledge. I was going to go home and accuse him of such and such. The old selfishness and insecurities were gaining strength. I had to stop them. If not, I would get home and the fight would be on.
I started questioning my accusations that were swirling in my head. Are these thoughts reality? Does his past actions coincide with today’s accusations toward him? As I started to honestly answer these questions and remind myself of how I am supposed to treat my husband, I started to calm down. I started to back away from the ledge. I reminded myself of the new ideas that I had learned from the book, “Love Life for Every Married Couple” by Ed Wheat and Gloria Okes Perkins. These ideas were a new way to love my spouse that I had not used before and they are great. I have noticed a lot of change in myself and how my husband responds to me when I follow this new way of loving him. I continued to replay the words from the book in my mind. When I arrived at home, I did not start in on my husband, but met him with a smile and open arms. He returned the gesture. At least one unnecessary blow up had been avoided simply because I took the time to think about my actions and what they were going to do. The fight really would have been unnecessary because in the grand scheme of things it didn’t matter anyway.
Inviting Excellence into our Life is about becoming our best at everything we do. Part of that is filling our minds with the correct tools to counter destructive thought patterns. I would love to hear what tools you are using. I am always looking for new ideas and suggestions to be a better me. Remember to go out and share your AWESOME this week.