Don’t remarry your ex!

This post is not about bashing the exes that will be for a different post. Just kidding. I am not going to bash any exes.

We are told that 50% of all marriages fail. The reasons for failed marriages are endless. One of the reasons that stick out in my mind is that one of the spouses is not happy. They are not being fulfilled in some way. They’re not sure why they’re not happy, they just know that they’re not happy. We then start to look for answers outside of us. It’s the job, the kids, the house, the lack of money, or our spouse that no longer makes us happy. We look everywhere, but where we should look and that is within.

We  rush into making drastic, life altering changes. I have spoken with many divorcees  who told me that they wished they hadn’t rushed into a divorce. I’m not saying that all divorces end that way, but many do. My point here is this, if you are unhappy don’t start blaming outside circumstances for your situation. We must start with looking inside first. Fix yourself first, then see if your circumstances look the same. Once we start to change for the better, typically our circumstances will follow.

If you  decide to get divorced before you make changes in your life, be sure that you don’t rush back into a relationship until you fix you. Chances are extremely high that you will end up back in the same situation that you were just in. You will wake up one morning and discover that you married someone just like your ex. Ugh!! We cannot rely on others to make us happy. That must come from within.

I do realize that there are situations where divorce is for the person’s own sanity and protection. I’m not talking about those situations. I encourage anyone who is in an abusive relationship of any kind to get help.

If you are not happy, take this week to spend some time alone and get really honest with yourself. See why you’re not happy. Could it be resolved with changing some things in you? Is your marriage worth it to try and make changes with you first? Contact a licensed counselor if you need help getting started. Start to work on you today. Even if you can’t save your marriage, you will have tried a different approach than most.  Be sure to sign up for our weekly blog post to keep you informed on how to Invite Excellence into your Life. Go out and share your AWESOME today!

Miracle in a can.

If you could go to the store and buy a miracle in a can, would you? Absolutely. We all would. We would load up as many as we could carry, take them home, then store them in a safe location. What if I said you can get miracles in a can? Miracles come in cans, they just don’t come in cants. If we are ever going to go forward in our life, we have to make tough decisions. We have to quit pouring out the pity party and start standing up for ourselves. Let’s tell ourselves today, No More pity parties! No more worrying about what might happen tomorrow. Today we are going to be our best. Today we can conquer whatever comes our way.

Changing our mindset begins with a decision. A decision to take on the challenges we face inside. I’m talking about those pesky little demons that love to rise up inside of us that want us to focus on our cants. What a pain in the side those things are? Acknowledging the demons inside is the first step to correcting them. Then you have to be brave enough to say, “I can”. I can be happy. I can live for today. I can live the dream that I feel so deep inside of me. We have to open our own can of miracles, nobody is going to do it for us.

What current challenges are you struggling with? Is there something inside that is causing pain in your life? Something that you wish you didn’t do? I am currently working on living for today instead of worrying about what might happen tomorrow. This is an act of faith and yes it’s hard. At times I fail, but other times it makes my life very peaceful and calm. I get to open my new miracle in a can every day and you can too. This is another way to Invite Excellence into our lives. Let’s go be all God called us to be.