Break the bad habit of worry!!!

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Being happy is a choice. We can choose to worry about things we cannot control or we can choose to let them go. Worrying about tomorrow and what it might bring is a waste of time and is a happiness stealer. Matthew 6:34 tells us “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own”. Many will say this is easier said than done and I agree, but worrying is a bad habit.

Breaking bad habits will take some work, but it’s worth it. Understand this is a bad habit and we are in the process of changing the bad into good. We can choose every day to get up and be thankful for all we have. I have made this a habit in my life. Before I get out of bed, I thank God for all the many wonderful blessings that are in my life.

I have found that the morning is also a time when I seem to be bombarded by worries and thoughts of negativity. I have to ask myself, “Is this something that I can do something about or not?” If not, I have to give it to God and let it go. If I can do something about it, then I need to be proactive. I need to first pray for guidance, then get busy working through the issues.

This process frees my mind to be happy. Let go of the junk and hang on to the good. I understand that happiness typically depends on my circumstances while true joy depends on another level of understanding and relationship with our higher power. Today I choose to be happy, but I will also continue to seek joy from my higher power.

“I will make this day a happy one, for I alone can determine what kind of a day it will be.” ~Anonymous

Tomorrow when you wake up and your mind takes off with all the worries of today or past regrets of yesterday, stop your mind. Literally tell it to stop. Redirect your thoughts to thanking God for all of your blessings. Yes you have many blessings in your life if you stop and look for them. Just look around, you can find many others who are suffering more than you. Count your blessings, be thankful for them and then give your struggles over to God. Just for this day let him worry about them while you enjoy the day.

Go out and share your happiness today!!!

Searching for our best.

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I was thinking about how to become my best self. Then I thought, what does that mean? It means to look for understanding in the season that we are currently living in. We all go through different seasons our entire life. As we enter these seasons we should do so with eyes wide open. What is this season showing me about my life? I currently am in an intense season of learning to deal with co-dependency. I didn’t realize I was co-dependent, but because God has opened my eyes to this situation I have chosen to embrace this issue.

Making tough choices

I could have chosen to deny what I was being shown, but then I would continue down the path that I have already traveled. That path is tired and worn out. I want a new path in my life. One with freedom, challenges and excitement. This only happens when we face our fears and acknowledge we have issues that need to be addressed. I love the path that I am on. I am facing fears and it is exciting, freeing and terrifying all at the same time. It also makes me feel very alive.

Becoming our best selves means we have to look inside and find ourselves. Not always easy. We have to be ok with the fact that we are not perfect, nor will we ever be. That’s tough when we fight with perfectionism. No one is perfect, so how do we expect to be? Embrace the flaws and be proud. We are wonderfully and beautifully made. We have purpose and we are loved.

Meeting the challenge

We have things revealed to us when God feels we are ready to meet the challenge. If we choose not to meet the challenge, we are given second chances but we are wasting valuable time ignoring reality. If we are to be our best selves we have to put on our big girl pants and be honest with ourselves and face the challenges that need to be addressed. This is why personal development and being life-long learners is so important. I look forward to pursuing my goal of being my best self because that means for the rest of my life, I have a project. LOL!! Are you up for a life-long project?

If you have issues you need to face and are not sure where to start, then please find a certified counselor or clergyman who can help you start your journey. This is a great way to Invite Excellence into your Life. Go out today and show the world your AWESOME best self!!!!!!

Low self confidence? We need to talk.

Are you struggling with low self-confidence? If so, we need to talk. I can honestly tell you I have been on a personal development journey off and on for the last 15 years on this very subject. Today I am going to share with you one of the MAIN factors in low self-confidence.

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You MUST get right with God, if you don’t, you will have a very hard time moving forward. Why? You cannot move forward when your past is dragging you down. Get on with it, ask God for forgiveness, accept his forgiveness then forgive yourself. If you are still struggling with forgiving yourself, find a qualified counselor/priest/preacher and go talk to them. I know what it’s like to live with shame and regret, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Working through our past mistakes and traumas is a must in our path forward. Do not let your past define your future.

Don’t tell me it’s too late and that I don’t know what you’ve done or been through. I am the biggest sinner I know. I’m not going to compare sins with you like it’s a competition and I am not going to judge you just because your sins are different than mine. For a long time I couldn’t forgive myself, but once I did, “WOW” did my life change. Not necessarily my surroundings, but I changed on the inside. My actions directly affected those around me and in a good way. I had more peace than ever before in my life. This is when I truly started to grow and pursue who God had called me to be. What an amazing feeling. Please don’t let life pass you by because of past regrets. Deal with them and move on. You are an amazing person and God has great plans for your life. Go show off your AWESOME today!!!!!

Do you know Bestie ten Boom?

This weekend I revisited a devotion that was written by Betsie ten Boom. She is the sister of author and speaker Corrie ten Boom. Betsie died in a Nazi concentration camp in World War II. I often read Betsie’s devotion because I am continually amazed at the inner strength she had during that time. The first time I read it I could hardly believe it was written in a concentration camp. Surrounded by the unspeakable atrocities that went on there and still be able to find compassion. I am always astounded, mainly because I don’t believe I have that in me. I doubt my power. Yet, I know truly where her power came from. It was not personal strength, it was God strength. Today, I am going to share this devotion with you. While you read it remember where she was at and the indescribable hell that none of us could surely imagine.

“The most important part of our task will be to tell everyone who will listen that Jesus is the only answer to the problems that are disturbing the hearts of men and nations.

We shall have the right to speak because we can tell from our experience that his light is more powerful than the deepest darkness…. How wonderful that the reality of his presence is greater than the reality of the hell about us”.  –Betsie ten Boom

That last line shows strength that is incomprehensible by me. Could you imagine a world that walked around carrying that kind of strength and understanding of the truth? What could we accomplish in our lives if we believed like this? There would be no limits. Guess what? We can live like this if we choose to. Part of Inviting Excellence into our Lives is growing our spiritual life. I want everyone to grow to have this strength. Go out this week and share your “AWESOME” with the world. You are full of “AWESOME” because that is how God made every one of us.

What are your words saying about you?

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Have you ever judged someone by the words they use? I have. When someone starts to talk you can almost instantly form an opinion about their manners, respect of others, empathy, spirituality, and even intelligence. These are exactly the times when I have to start the self-talk about not being judgmental. Being judgmental is one of the areas I am concentrating on improving this year.

The language that we use let’s others know almost immediately what is in our hearts. Our words can are very powerful. In just a few words we can build someone up or tear them to shreds. I have been on the receiving end of that a few times and it is not pleasant. Do you remember a time in your life when someone said something to you that pierced your heart or painfully wounded you? If so, remember how that felt when you get ready to speak to someone. Never do anything while you are angry or hurt, especially go on the attack to someone.

Our words to others should always be pleasant even when we have to give constructive feedback. Whether it is our spouse, children, family member or co-worker, choose your words carefully. We can easily pierce someone’s self-respect and dignity without even realizing it. Our words show the world who we are and what our heart contains. It is wise to fill our hearts with only loving, constructive, positive, and productive thoughts.

Take some time this week to watch your words and see how they affect others. Make it a point to share some encouraging words to others on purpose and see what their response is. Filling our hearts with great and powerful thoughts that encourage and support others is another way to Invite Excellence into your Life. Have a fantastic week and be all that God made you to be.

Your past does not define your future.

photo (9)Your past does not define your future. I have often referred to that saying throughout my blogs because I believe it is an undeniable truth. We have seen many people overcome unrealistic, heart breaking circumstances and do great things with their lives. One who stands out in my mind is Dave Pelzer, who wrote the book, “A Child Called It, One Child’s Courage to Survive”. Another is Joyce Meyer, who was emotionally and sexually abused by her father for the first 18 years of her life. These people had unsurmountable odds stacked against them, but went on to serve and help others in the most productive ways possible.

I too, want to think of myself as one who has not let their past define their future. I have a past like everyone else.  Not proud of some of my past, but it is what it is. I did many things that I am ashamed of, but I refuse to let that be my future. I consider myself a born again Christian who has a passion for sharing God’s love and promises. I write this blog because I know that changing your mindset will absolutely change your future. I want to remind others that just because they have a past doesn’t mean you have to relive your mistakes every day.

You can begin a whole new chapter in your life by changing what you put into your mind today. Don’t let anyone tell you any different. If you have someone in your life that is dragging you down, then cut them loose. You don’t have to be mean about it, but when they start in, excuse yourself from the situation, go somewhere else, politely get off the phone, quit following them on Facebook, whatever it takes, but don’t let them tell you who you are.

I want to share with you the truth that you are beautifully and wonderfully made by our God. He has put you here to do great things. Let your past be a learning tool to move forward. Let it make you be a stronger person who wants to learn from their mistakes. You are a child of God and you deserve to be happy and fulfill your life’s passion. Learn to Invite Excellence into Your Life, for this is what God wants for you. Go be all God designed you to be and follow your passions.

Find your missing peace.

I am not one to tell you who or what you need to believe in. By belief, I am referring to our higher power. For someone like me who has a tendency to want to control situations, believing in a higher power relinquishes me from trying to get involved in every detail of mine and others lives.

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It has been a long road for me to give up trying to fix everything and everyone around me, but I’m glad I did. For one thing, it’s exhausting. The second thing is, it steals your peace. I am now much better rested and live with a peace that I never knew existed.

Typically when I take my oldest daughter shopping it’s not a fun experience because I stress out about spending money and she really likes to spend my money. We recently went shopping and I put my technique to the test of not saying anything and letting life play out. She started looking at some boots that I was not interested in purchasing at this time because I wanted to wait until Christmas. I just kept telling myself, just wait and see how this plays out, don’t say anything to her, yet. I waited and to my great joy they did not have any boots in her size that she wanted. Crisis diverted. No major arguments broke out and we had a great day shopping. This is a small incident in life, but it works with the big issues also.

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Not all situations work out like this, but it’s a very true point that most of our lives we worry over things that never even happen. This is one of the many ways to bring peace into your life by simply changing the way we think. It has helped me to stop trying to control everything and let God run my life just as he is supposed to.

Are there times in your life that you need to let life play out before getting involved? Give it a try this week. Be patient and see how things work out right before your eyes.