5 ways to stop life from controlling your destiny

Striving for Excellence!Are you letting life drive you? This is an area that I am working on improving. Last week I had a child home sick for 4 days and it totally through my schedule off. The reason it through my schedule off was because I let it. I didn’t stick to what I knew needed to be done. I got a few things done, but not nearly what I could have accomplished had I stuck to my routine of scheduling life, instead of it scheduling me. Here is a list of ways to make sure we are living our lives on purpose, instead of letting life lead us.

Schedule your day, the day before. This is of the utmost importance when you are taking charge of your life. Plan out your next day late in the afternoon or early evening, this way you can add to or take away from your schedule as you let your mind mull over the agenda. You will think of things that you forgot or you will see that you will need extra time for other items.

Set long term goals then break them down into daily, weekly, and monthly tasks. Our long term goals can be lost in the busyness of life if we don’t stay focused on them. Setting our agendas to include working on our long term goals on a consistent basis allows us to slowly work toward achieving them and helping us to not get overwhelmed by their size. Breaking our goals down and accomplishing a little every day will not only keep us from getting overwhelmed, but will let us see progress on a regular basis.

Be grateful every day. When we remain grateful, we allow our minds to stay focused on the positives. Negativity easily creeps into our thinking when we aren’t thinking on purpose. We have over 60,000 thoughts per day. If we don’t stay focused on what we are thinking about these could easily be 60,000 negative thoughts per day that will absolutely destroy our progress in moving forward. Every morning when you wake up, start making that gratitude list and continue to work on it throughout your day.

Exercise. If you are not exercising right now, then I challenge you to start today with just 5 pushups (girl ones), 5 sit-ups, and 5 squats. Start slow and set realistic goals. If you can’t do these then get a couple cans of canned veggies and do 10 curls on each arm. Each time you set a goal and accomplish it, you will want to accomplish more. We get overwhelmed because we set unrealistic goals that we can’t maintain long term then we get discouraged. Don’t set a goal to run a mile a day starting out. Start slow and inch your way up.

Eat healthy. I look at eating healthy this way. We eat 21 meals per week, if I can eat 14 healthy meals per week that is better than none. I am not going to beat myself up when I make a mistake. When I mess up, I am going to start over right away. Yes, I make mistakes, everyone does, but that will not hold me back from trying again. Incorporate healthy eating into your life a little at a time. Don’t get discouraged when you mess up, shake it off and keep moving forward.

Don’t try to be perfect in life, strive for excellence. We need to be excellent in all we do, which means we try to do the best we can and continue to push ourselves to improve every day. That’s it. That’s all it takes is to just be better than yesterday. If you fail, get up and try again.

Go out today and show the world how AWESOME you are. Set your goals and be a leader for all those around you. Others need someone to guide them, you are that someone.

8 ways to promote a healthy body image and lifestyle to our kids.

Jenny Hester

Jenny Hester

Last week I posted a thank you to Meghan Trainor for promoting positive body image for our girls. This week, I wanted to follow up on that with some research on how to help our girls with a positive body image. According to the Center for Disease Control and National Association of Eating Disorders, by age 6 girls start to express concerns about their own weight or shape. Additionally, around half of elementary school girls are concerned about their weight or about becoming too fat.

We as parents can help our girls in several different ways.

Be role models for living a healthy lifestyle. We need to be teaching our kids about proper nutrition and how foods affect our bodies. Help our kids understand that eating fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats are for taking care of the body, not just losing weight.

Media images are not reality. We have to discuss with our girls that what Hollywood and the media promotes on TV is not reality. Explain that there is a difference between being healthy and being thin.

Help them feel good about themselves. Helping others and giving back is one of the best ways to feel good about ourselves. Let’s help our kids find ways to give back and let them feel the positive emotions that this creates within.

Don’t voice our concerns over our own weight. If we need to lose a few pounds, we don’t want to verbalize this in front of our kids. Make the necessary changes in our own lifestyle to lose the weight in a positive healthy way. Believe me, our kids will take notice that we are living a healthier lifestyle.

Surround the kids with positive influences. Be sure we do not allow good intentioned family members or friends to say anything to our kids about their weight. Help the kids to have positive role models in their life.

Purge the kitchen of junk food. Having “treats” around the house is tempting for all of us, so make sure that we are keeping healthy snacks that are prepared in the kitchen. When you come home from the grocery, cut up some fruits and vegetables and have them ready to go for the kids.

Get active. Play with your kids. Get out in the yard or go to the park and play ball. Ride bicycles along your favorite path. Take the family for walks together. This not only encourages exercise, but also family talking time.

Cook with your kids. My kids have always loved to be in the kitchen cooking with me. Look up recipes with your kids, Pinterest has great ideas, on how to cook healthy meals and let them participate. They will take more interest in their new healthy lifestyle when they feel that they are contributing.

Our kids need our help and guidance in this world. If you have a child who is struggling with body image or eating disorder you can check the National Eating Disorders website to get ideas on how to help your child.

Make sure to plan at least 2-3 activities this week with your child for play and exercise. Have a great week and share your AWESOME with the world.