Success is our own responsibility.

When I got out of high school I chose to stay home and attend the local community college to get my Associate’s degree. At one point, I held three part time jobs at the same time while going to school. No it wasn’t easy and yes I was tired most of that time, but I did what I had to do to get what I wanted. It’s always that way in life. We do what we have to, to get what we want. Those jobs that I held were not my dream jobs. I also knew that I didn’t have to do those jobs my entire life. I just had to do them long enough to get where I wanted to be.

Instead of thinking short term, we need to be planning long term in our decisions. What do we have to do short term to achieve our long term goals? This is called taking responsibility for ourselves. It all starts with us. Our attitudes, drive, goals, decisions, and personal choices are all our own responsibility. At some point we have to cut the cord from relying on others for our own success. We will only succeed when we choose to do so in our own minds. This is not done by telling others what we are going to do, but by showing it through our actions.

This week make it a goal to write down what you want in life, then break that down into actionable steps to achieve those goals. I would love to help you get started. Email me at to get you on your way. Go out today and show everyone how AWESOME you truly are!!!

4 examples of when “not” to think.

Stop-SignWe are always told to use our heads. Ever been asked, “Did you even think before you acted?” Well there are certainly times in our lives when it’s best not to think. Just let it go and think about it later. I can relate to at least 4 different situations when it’s best not to think.

First, don’t ever do anything when you’re mad. That little gem of advice was shared with me many years ago. I don’t always have the self-control to follow it, but I do try. It is certainly the best practice to follow, as we make entirely too many rash decisions when anger is a part of the equation. Those decisions are typically the ones that make you feel hung over the next day. We too often regret our actions from anger induced decisions.

Second, don’t make decisions when you are tired. Usually tired means easily agitated, which is a close relative to anger.

Third, don’t make decisions when you are hungry. That’s right, hungry. At this point you are “tired” from lack of energy from lack of nutrition. Ever seen the Snickers commercial that says you’re not yourself when you’re hungry. That is a true statement. Get something to eat, wait 30 minutes then make a decision.

Fourth, don’t make decisions when you are emotional. I am going to say that this relates more to the women than the men, but it applies to them as well. When we are emotional we are truly not thinking with a clear mind. Our emotions cloud our judgment and can sway us to make irrational choices.

So the next time you are going to make a decision, stop and ask yourself, “Am I hungry, tired, angry, or emotional?” If your answer is yes to any of them, wait to decide, you will be glad you did.

Can you remember a time when one of these caused you to make a decision that you later wished you could change? I would love to hear about it. Leave me a comment or suggestion about how you handle these situations.

Coming out of the closet.

photo (5)No, not that closet. I’m coming out of the faith filled closet. I once heard that if you want to speak on the corporate level that you couldn’t mention your faith and especially not the name of Christ in your message. I have struggled and struggled with this. I thought, I don’t know how to tell people to overcome their negativity without the help of faith. I just don’t know how that could possibly work. Because of that information, I have tip toed around the subject of faith on my blog.

While I was reading the book, “Why Not You”, by Valerie Burton. She by the way is a very successful author, speaker, coach, and TV personality. Her book is about gaining authentic confidence through faith. I thought, if she can be successful mentioning her faith, then I can too. Even if I never receive an invitation to speak at a corporate event, it will be ok. I will know that I am being true to myself and my readers. My honesty will far outweigh anything else.

When I made the decision to focus my message on my true beliefs, I almost exploded with relief. I have been torn with this decision for weeks. Being true to our inner core, our authentic self, is the only way to truly be free. Valerie Burton, I owe you a huge thank you. You are truly an inspiration to me. God bless you.

Is there something in your life that you are navigating around instead of facing head on? Things that we hide deep inside of us, don’t just go away. They can actually start to fester and cause major problems later on. Don’t keep things inside. Find ways to confront the issues and be honest about your feelings. What do you need to confront this week that would take a burden off of you?