Why our kids need to earn their own money?

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My kids are like everybody else’s kids, they like to have and spend money. I don’t want to just hand over the cash at their every whim because that sends the wrong message. I like to pay my kids by the job. My oldest daughter babysits for her two younger siblings at times and she earns money from that job. One thing she knows is that she should work for her income. She also has a part time job at the local movie theatre. She recently decided to take a trip to the beach on spring break. With that decision came the understanding that she would have to come up with spending cash. She has sent out texts to friends and family concerning her dilemma of needing to raise cash. She let them know that she is available to house sit, babysit, or dog sit. She has asked for more hours at work and hit me up for extra chores at home. I see getting my windows cleaned this spring.What this does for our kids:

1)      Teaches responsibility

2)      Builds self-esteem

3)      They need to know how to earn a living, that life is not a free ride.

4)      They realize they are productive members of society

5)      They learn financial responsibility

This is a valuable lesson that our children need to learn. They also need to be able to feel good about themselves. Talk to them about why you want them to earn money on their own. Share with them what you are trying to teach them. Yes, I am sure they will complain at first, but someday they will thank you. This is a great way to Invite Excellence into your children’s Life. Don’t deny them the opportunity to let their AWESOME shine.

New unique service offered.

I love new and unique ideas. When someone comes out with helpful services I feel drawn to share that with others. A new service was just created by a friend of mine for blended families.  This is a highly needed service today due to all of the divorce and people trying to start over in second marriages. Sherry L. Carver offers sound advice on combining families in second marriages.

Sherry Carver

Sherry Carver

Sherry has worked as a Family Law Paralegal for 15 years. She says she was drawn to that aspect of law because she was a child of divorced parents, is a divorced parent, is in a second marriage and a step-parent. Sherry’s first-hand experience with divorce and experience in working with those getting divorced has given her great insight into blended families.

I have not heard of anyone else offering this service and it’s a great opportunity for others. She brings many issues to light that I think are not even considered when contemplating divorce. Her guiding is for first, second and subsequent marriage couples. She addresses blended family issues, finances and communication to build strong couples preparing to achieve their goals.

Sherry realizes the issues that come with remarriage.  Most couples think that once divorced, the hard work is over, but divorce creates many new issues such as: two residences (and the bills that go along with it); children going back and forth and trying to make a home; becoming a one parent home and watching your ex-spouse take on a new life without you.

She has great insight in working through these issues and guides blended families through these difficult times. If you are in a blended family or are thinking about divorce, my hope is that you would contact Sherry for some valuable input into your decision. Sherry’s hope is to build strong couples who are well-prepared for the discord that lives in every blended family and who will work together for their family goals.

We are told to seek wise counsel when making decisions and Sherry offers extremely wise counsel. How great would it be to have someone in your corner to guide you through the new challenges that you are facing? Why not give your new marriage every chance possible to get started in the right direction? If you are starting over, have found yourself divorced or preparing to remarry then check out her website at www.sherrylcarver.com and let Sherry help you Invite Excellence into your Life.

 

I was shot by a fiery dart

In the mornings I use two devotional books. One is The Power of a Praying® Parent Book of Prayers (Power of a Praying Book of Prayers), by Stormie Omartian and the other is Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, by Sarah Young. I use “The Power of a Praying Parent” as a guide to pray over my children. Toward the end of the prayer I was reading one day the scripture said, “quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one”. Ephesians 6:16. This particular scripture of Ephesians talks about putting on the armor of God and going into spiritual warfare.

“12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities,against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:12-18

As I finished reading this I had an overwhelming feeling that something bad was going to happen to one of my children. At one time I would have allowed these thoughts to control my mind and I would have let my mind wonder where it wanted to go causing me grief and needless worry, but instead I stopped what I was doing and came back to the present moment. I realized I’ve been hit. One of the fiery darts made it through. The fight was on. I told myself the truth. I had just sent my two youngest off to school and they were in wonderful hands. My oldest was going to a Global Leadership Summit with some of her Youth Group members at a local church. They were all fine. I concluded that I must live in the moment and at this moment life was good. If something happens, I will worry about it then.

We must all be aware that we are going to be the victims of fiery darts from time to time, but with the knowledge of what is happening we can combat the attack and be conquerors. When this happens know that this is an attempt to steal your peace, but don’t let that happen. Live in the present and don’t give in to needless worries. Can you think of a time when you have been under attack and didn’t realize it and allowed the fiery darts to steal your peace? Remember to always Invite Excellence into your Life by educating yourself. We are more than we allow ourselves to be, so go Be More!!