How do you approach problems?

I have a tendency to approach problems like a bull in a china shop. By the time I am done with an issue it seems that it’s bigger than when I started. I do this because I have a tendency to be a control freak. You can see the reason for control issues in this article I did for the Good Men Project here.

A better way to approach problems are with some subtlety. The reason we need to be subtle when we approach problems is so that we can gather needed information. I have gone into situations with half the information that I needed and completely screwed the situation up. Slow down and gather as much information as you can about the situation then do some more investigation. You may find that it is not actually what it seems to be.

Slowing down also allows time for the situation to work itself out. I have found that more times than not, if I back away, pray about what’s going on and let it work itself out, it all comes together better than I had expected.

Sometimes I get so overwhelmed with an issue that I can’t see the answers because I am too focused on the problem. It’s like the saying, “You can’t see the forest for the trees.” Once I back away, clear my head, look at other solutions, slow down, pray awhile, educate myself, and ask myself “Why?” a couple hundred times, I get much more clear.

Asking myself “Why?” has been one of my biggest blessings. Why do I feel this way? Why am I so obsessed with finding a solution? These answers will start to open my eyes to things I had not looked at before. It truly is a great way to increase our self-awareness. It also helps us to slow down and let nature take its course on many things that we are not supposed to be involved in anyway.

This week, when a situation arises, and one will arise, instead of making a hasty judgment, slow down and back off for a while and see what happens. I would love to hear how things turn out for you. Leave a comment for me or shoot me an email at

Have a great week!!