Break the bad habit of worry!!!

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Being happy is a choice. We can choose to worry about things we cannot control or we can choose to let them go. Worrying about tomorrow and what it might bring is a waste of time and is a happiness stealer. Matthew 6:34 tells us “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own”. Many will say this is easier said than done and I agree, but worrying is a bad habit.

Breaking bad habits will take some work, but it’s worth it. Understand this is a bad habit and we are in the process of changing the bad into good. We can choose every day to get up and be thankful for all we have. I have made this a habit in my life. Before I get out of bed, I thank God for all the many wonderful blessings that are in my life.

I have found that the morning is also a time when I seem to be bombarded by worries and thoughts of negativity. I have to ask myself, “Is this something that I can do something about or not?” If not, I have to give it to God and let it go. If I can do something about it, then I need to be proactive. I need to first pray for guidance, then get busy working through the issues.

This process frees my mind to be happy. Let go of the junk and hang on to the good. I understand that happiness typically depends on my circumstances while true joy depends on another level of understanding and relationship with our higher power. Today I choose to be happy, but I will also continue to seek joy from my higher power.

“I will make this day a happy one, for I alone can determine what kind of a day it will be.” ~Anonymous

Tomorrow when you wake up and your mind takes off with all the worries of today or past regrets of yesterday, stop your mind. Literally tell it to stop. Redirect your thoughts to thanking God for all of your blessings. Yes you have many blessings in your life if you stop and look for them. Just look around, you can find many others who are suffering more than you. Count your blessings, be thankful for them and then give your struggles over to God. Just for this day let him worry about them while you enjoy the day.

Go out and share your happiness today!!!

Low self confidence? We need to talk.

Are you struggling with low self-confidence? If so, we need to talk. I can honestly tell you I have been on a personal development journey off and on for the last 15 years on this very subject. Today I am going to share with you one of the MAIN factors in low self-confidence.

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You MUST get right with God, if you don’t, you will have a very hard time moving forward. Why? You cannot move forward when your past is dragging you down. Get on with it, ask God for forgiveness, accept his forgiveness then forgive yourself. If you are still struggling with forgiving yourself, find a qualified counselor/priest/preacher and go talk to them. I know what it’s like to live with shame and regret, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Working through our past mistakes and traumas is a must in our path forward. Do not let your past define your future.

Don’t tell me it’s too late and that I don’t know what you’ve done or been through. I am the biggest sinner I know. I’m not going to compare sins with you like it’s a competition and I am not going to judge you just because your sins are different than mine. For a long time I couldn’t forgive myself, but once I did, “WOW” did my life change. Not necessarily my surroundings, but I changed on the inside. My actions directly affected those around me and in a good way. I had more peace than ever before in my life. This is when I truly started to grow and pursue who God had called me to be. What an amazing feeling. Please don’t let life pass you by because of past regrets. Deal with them and move on. You are an amazing person and God has great plans for your life. Go show off your AWESOME today!!!!!

Do you know Bestie ten Boom?

This weekend I revisited a devotion that was written by Betsie ten Boom. She is the sister of author and speaker Corrie ten Boom. Betsie died in a Nazi concentration camp in World War II. I often read Betsie’s devotion because I am continually amazed at the inner strength she had during that time. The first time I read it I could hardly believe it was written in a concentration camp. Surrounded by the unspeakable atrocities that went on there and still be able to find compassion. I am always astounded, mainly because I don’t believe I have that in me. I doubt my power. Yet, I know truly where her power came from. It was not personal strength, it was God strength. Today, I am going to share this devotion with you. While you read it remember where she was at and the indescribable hell that none of us could surely imagine.

“The most important part of our task will be to tell everyone who will listen that Jesus is the only answer to the problems that are disturbing the hearts of men and nations.

We shall have the right to speak because we can tell from our experience that his light is more powerful than the deepest darkness…. How wonderful that the reality of his presence is greater than the reality of the hell about us”.  –Betsie ten Boom

That last line shows strength that is incomprehensible by me. Could you imagine a world that walked around carrying that kind of strength and understanding of the truth? What could we accomplish in our lives if we believed like this? There would be no limits. Guess what? We can live like this if we choose to. Part of Inviting Excellence into our Lives is growing our spiritual life. I want everyone to grow to have this strength. Go out this week and share your “AWESOME” with the world. You are full of “AWESOME” because that is how God made every one of us.

I was shot by a fiery dart

In the mornings I use two devotional books. One is The Power of a Praying® Parent Book of Prayers (Power of a Praying Book of Prayers), by Stormie Omartian and the other is Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, by Sarah Young. I use “The Power of a Praying Parent” as a guide to pray over my children. Toward the end of the prayer I was reading one day the scripture said, “quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one”. Ephesians 6:16. This particular scripture of Ephesians talks about putting on the armor of God and going into spiritual warfare.

“12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities,against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. 16 In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord’s people.” Ephesians 6:12-18

As I finished reading this I had an overwhelming feeling that something bad was going to happen to one of my children. At one time I would have allowed these thoughts to control my mind and I would have let my mind wonder where it wanted to go causing me grief and needless worry, but instead I stopped what I was doing and came back to the present moment. I realized I’ve been hit. One of the fiery darts made it through. The fight was on. I told myself the truth. I had just sent my two youngest off to school and they were in wonderful hands. My oldest was going to a Global Leadership Summit with some of her Youth Group members at a local church. They were all fine. I concluded that I must live in the moment and at this moment life was good. If something happens, I will worry about it then.

We must all be aware that we are going to be the victims of fiery darts from time to time, but with the knowledge of what is happening we can combat the attack and be conquerors. When this happens know that this is an attempt to steal your peace, but don’t let that happen. Live in the present and don’t give in to needless worries. Can you think of a time when you have been under attack and didn’t realize it and allowed the fiery darts to steal your peace? Remember to always Invite Excellence into your Life by educating yourself. We are more than we allow ourselves to be, so go Be More!!

Find your missing peace.

I am not one to tell you who or what you need to believe in. By belief, I am referring to our higher power. For someone like me who has a tendency to want to control situations, believing in a higher power relinquishes me from trying to get involved in every detail of mine and others lives.

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It has been a long road for me to give up trying to fix everything and everyone around me, but I’m glad I did. For one thing, it’s exhausting. The second thing is, it steals your peace. I am now much better rested and live with a peace that I never knew existed.

Typically when I take my oldest daughter shopping it’s not a fun experience because I stress out about spending money and she really likes to spend my money. We recently went shopping and I put my technique to the test of not saying anything and letting life play out. She started looking at some boots that I was not interested in purchasing at this time because I wanted to wait until Christmas. I just kept telling myself, just wait and see how this plays out, don’t say anything to her, yet. I waited and to my great joy they did not have any boots in her size that she wanted. Crisis diverted. No major arguments broke out and we had a great day shopping. This is a small incident in life, but it works with the big issues also.

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Not all situations work out like this, but it’s a very true point that most of our lives we worry over things that never even happen. This is one of the many ways to bring peace into your life by simply changing the way we think. It has helped me to stop trying to control everything and let God run my life just as he is supposed to.

Are there times in your life that you need to let life play out before getting involved? Give it a try this week. Be patient and see how things work out right before your eyes.

Dare to be yourself.

I haven’t always been comfortable with who I was. I was certainly not comfortable in my own skin. I would see others and be envious of who they were or what they had. I wanted to keep up with the Jones’ so to say. I wanted to brag about things I had or did. It made me feel like somebody important when others envied me for a change.

Little did I know that being comfortable with myself had anything to do with things. It has to do with looking inside and figuring out why I think the way I do. I had to find what I was lacking as a person. I lived with a lot of insecurities for a long time. I believe it had to do with my childhood and being around kids that belittled others as sport. I always wanted to fit in and would follow the crowd to do so.

I have come a long way, but still struggle with these things at time. I like who I have become and have found that being the real you is much better than pretending to be someone else just to fit in. I love who God has created me to be. I found my true self when I allowed God to teach me to forgive myself and others. I am not perfect, nor will I ever be, but I will try everyday to be the best me that I can. I want to be honest with myself for the first time in my life. I don’t want to live in fear anymore and hide behind what I think others want me to be.

Are you being your true self? Are you living the life you want to live? Decide today to forgive yourself and others, love yourself and others, and be all that God created you to be. You owe yourself that.

Coming out of the closet.

photo (5)No, not that closet. I’m coming out of the faith filled closet. I once heard that if you want to speak on the corporate level that you couldn’t mention your faith and especially not the name of Christ in your message. I have struggled and struggled with this. I thought, I don’t know how to tell people to overcome their negativity without the help of faith. I just don’t know how that could possibly work. Because of that information, I have tip toed around the subject of faith on my blog.

While I was reading the book, “Why Not You”, by Valerie Burton. She by the way is a very successful author, speaker, coach, and TV personality. Her book is about gaining authentic confidence through faith. I thought, if she can be successful mentioning her faith, then I can too. Even if I never receive an invitation to speak at a corporate event, it will be ok. I will know that I am being true to myself and my readers. My honesty will far outweigh anything else.

When I made the decision to focus my message on my true beliefs, I almost exploded with relief. I have been torn with this decision for weeks. Being true to our inner core, our authentic self, is the only way to truly be free. Valerie Burton, I owe you a huge thank you. You are truly an inspiration to me. God bless you.

Is there something in your life that you are navigating around instead of facing head on? Things that we hide deep inside of us, don’t just go away. They can actually start to fester and cause major problems later on. Don’t keep things inside. Find ways to confront the issues and be honest about your feelings. What do you need to confront this week that would take a burden off of you?