They were going to jump, but I talked them off the ledge.

There they were standing there, ready to jump at a moments’ notice. They weren’t afraid and did not give any thought to how it would make others feel. They were going to jump unless some drastic measures were taken. At first, I almost gave in and let them jump. I was on board with their cause, I understood where they were coming from. I had been in this position before and had seen many jump to their demise. Suddenly, my subconscious kicked in with the thoughts that I had recently planted in it. These were not the thoughts from the past, these were new and strong. I kicked into action. I started allowing the new thoughts to take over, I was on automatic, just letting the new thoughts roll.

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What I was talking off the ledge were my actions. I had just had a conversation with my husband and I had made assumptions about a certain situation. I was about 30 minutes from home and on my way home, I had to talk myself off that ledge. I was going to go home and accuse him of such and such. The old selfishness and insecurities were gaining strength. I had to stop them. If not, I would get home and the fight would be on.

I started questioning my accusations that were swirling in my head. Are these thoughts reality? Does his past actions coincide with today’s accusations toward him? As I started to honestly answer these questions and remind myself of how I am supposed to treat my husband, I started to calm down. I started to back away from the ledge. I reminded myself of the new ideas that I had learned from the book, “Love Life for Every Married Couple” by Ed Wheat and Gloria Okes Perkins. These ideas were a new way to love my spouse that I had not used before and they are great. I have noticed a lot of change in myself and how my husband responds to me when I follow this new way of loving him. I continued to replay the words from the book in my mind. When I arrived at home, I did not start in on my husband, but met him with a smile and open arms. He returned the gesture. At least one unnecessary blow up had been avoided simply because I took the time to think about my actions and what they were going to do. The fight really would have been unnecessary because in the grand scheme of things it didn’t matter anyway.

Inviting Excellence into our Life is about becoming our best at everything we do. Part of that is filling our minds with the correct tools to counter destructive thought patterns. I would love to hear what tools you are using. I am always looking for new ideas and suggestions to be a better me. Remember to go out and share your AWESOME this week.

What are your words saying about you?

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Have you ever judged someone by the words they use? I have. When someone starts to talk you can almost instantly form an opinion about their manners, respect of others, empathy, spirituality, and even intelligence. These are exactly the times when I have to start the self-talk about not being judgmental. Being judgmental is one of the areas I am concentrating on improving this year.

The language that we use let’s others know almost immediately what is in our hearts. Our words can are very powerful. In just a few words we can build someone up or tear them to shreds. I have been on the receiving end of that a few times and it is not pleasant. Do you remember a time in your life when someone said something to you that pierced your heart or painfully wounded you? If so, remember how that felt when you get ready to speak to someone. Never do anything while you are angry or hurt, especially go on the attack to someone.

Our words to others should always be pleasant even when we have to give constructive feedback. Whether it is our spouse, children, family member or co-worker, choose your words carefully. We can easily pierce someone’s self-respect and dignity without even realizing it. Our words show the world who we are and what our heart contains. It is wise to fill our hearts with only loving, constructive, positive, and productive thoughts.

Take some time this week to watch your words and see how they affect others. Make it a point to share some encouraging words to others on purpose and see what their response is. Filling our hearts with great and powerful thoughts that encourage and support others is another way to Invite Excellence into your Life. Have a fantastic week and be all that God made you to be.

Guess what I get to do?

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For the next couple of days I want you to check something. See how many times you say, “I’ve go to …….” I’ve got to go to the store. I’ve got to pay the bills. I’ve got to work. I’ve got to cook supper. Ok, so where I am going with this. Think about this for a minute. What if instead of saying, “I’ve got to” you use the term, “I get to.” I get to cook a healthy meal for my family, there are many who go hungry. I get to go to work, so I can pay my bills there are many without jobs. I have money in my pocket, so I get to go to the store and buy food. I get to workout in the morning there are many who are ill and can’t get up. Do you see how changing that one word in our vocabulary can change our entire perception of events in our lives?

Our thoughts become words, our words become actions. If we are going to change our actions this year it has to start with changing our thoughts, then our words. Take the time this week to see how purposely watching our words changes our perceptions. You will have to give it some thought, which is a good way to reflect on how we see the events in our lives. This one little change will lead to dramatic changes in your outlook. Leave me a message about the changes you see in your life from this one switch. This is one of the small ways you can Invite Excellence into Your Life and become all God has called you to be.

Attacking the enemy from all sides. The Conclusion

JubileeVISUALIZE400So for the last couple of weeks I have shared how we can conquer the enemy of fear and negative thinking. Another technique is to tell the enemy to go suck an egg that you are not buying his crap anymore. Then you need to share some positives about yourself. Make a list of all the positives in your life. You are a great spouse, parent, sibling, employee, child, friend, etc. You get the point. Have some positive affirmations ready to sling at the enemy. We are more than we allow ourselves to be and it’s time we quit hiding behind humility and admit our awesomeness. LOL We need to take ourselves with a grain of salt sometime. Be prepared to combat negativity with positive thoughts.

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Last and not least, spend time visualizing the future that you want for yourself. Don’t let fear and negativity into this special time that you set aside to dream. We all have dreams. Some of us just forget to remember them. Don’t have any old dreams you can remember, then make some new dreams. Visualize yourself at your best, doing what you love and the crowd cheering you on for doing it. Visualization is a powerful tool to our subconscious. Our minds go to work to accomplish the pictures that we paint. Start painting your dreams in your mind today and be thinking only positive thoughts. When you come under attack, kick him to the curb. The attacks are only thoughts, they don’t control you unless you let them.

Spend time this week focusing on your comeback responses to your negative, fearful thoughts. Don’t you dare let that good for nothing blankety blank drag you down with his lies. You are better than that. INVITE EXCELLENCE into your life today because you are awesome and you deserve it!!!

Attack the enemy from all sides. Part 1

Our enemy comes at us with a fury. I am referring to the enemy of negative thinking and the fears that accommdate them. Steven Pressfield refers to them as Resistance in his book, “The War of Art.” I have come to the realization that you must throw everything you have at conquering these thoughts. There are several techniques that I use to keep them from consuming me.

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First, I use the audio books that I keep in my car and on my iphone. I listen to Zig Ziglar, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, Steven Pressfield and Joyce Meyer. I spend 30 minutes to an hour in my car everyday. I can inject great thoughts into my subconscious during this time. This allows for 2 1/2 to 5 hours per week of personal development. You will be amazed at the amount of books you can get through this way. The libraries are full of audio books also, so check them out for cost free listening. It’s also a great way to check out speakers on their dime to see if you are going to like them.

Second, I turn of the TV, escpecially the news. I don’t receive updates for breaking news or any other news reports. If something major happens and I need to be aware, someone typically mentions it to me. Most of the things that the news reports do not affect me, nor can I do anything about them. I try to affect those that I can without worrying about those things that I cannot. The news lives and dies by the shock factor and negativity in this world. I don’t live in the dark, but there is no reason to put this type of negativity and worry into my mind daily.

What are some techniques that you use daily to fight the enemy? Leave me some comments, maybe I could use them in the posts. Remember to Invite Excellence into your life everyday!!!

Are you herding cats?

Have you ever heard the term, “herding cats”? I have actually stopped and visualized this process from time to time. It brings quite a smile to my face. Unfortunately, this term can also be used in reference to our thoughts. We at times allow our thoughts to run uncontrolled. When we do this it causes havoc in our lives.

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I think back to Proverbs 29:17, “Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.” The same thing is true for our thoughts. If we don’t learn to control and discipline our thoughts, they will in turn control us. You will have no peace in your life until you teach your mind the correct way to think.

I am sure to some this sounds silly. That you don’t have to teach your mind how to think, but actually it is the most important thing you will ever do in your life. When your mind learns the correct way to think, it will be life changing. This will affect the way you respond to every aspect of your life. Kent Julian teaches us the E+ R = O formula. Events plus response equals outcome. Your thoughts control the outcome of every event in your life. It is your response to those events that is the key.

For this week, take time to notice your thoughts. Are your thoughts positive? Are they bringing you closer to your goals? Are they going to bring peace in your life? If they are great, if not get to work on changing the way you think. You can begin by reading, “The Power of Positive Thinking”, by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. This is one of the first steps of Inviting Excellence into your life. Let me know other ways that you control your thoughts. Leave me a comment and share some ideas.

Six ways to boost self-confidence.

photo (5)When you struggle with self-confidence issues, it can make life tough. This is when we have a tendency to beat ourselves up over every little thing. We have goals and aspirations, but those negative thoughts keep telling us that we can’t or that we’re not good enough.

Today, we are going to kick the self-confidence into forward. There are things that you can do to increase your self-confidence. I have learned these lessons first hand. I have done every one of them. Today, I am a much more confident person. Let’s get started.

First, surround yourself with positive, supportive people. Jim Rohn said, “We are the average of the top 5 people that we surround ourselves with.” Select your friends wisely.

Second, be aware of self-talk. What you tell yourself or say about others will directly affect your self-confidence. Be supportive of yourself and others.

Third, have principles to live by. Like the saying, “You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything.” You must have principles in your life to direct you.

Fourth, read books or listen to podcast that are productive and positive. Watching the news and reality TV is not what you need to fill your mind with.

Fifth, take care of yourself and be sure that you like how you look. Dress in a way that is attractive for you that says, “I am confident and proud of myself.”

Sixth, have a servants’ heart. You will never like yourself more, than when you have done something kind for someone else. Go out of your way for someone with no expectations of getting anything in return.

Pick one of these to do today. See how you feel after completing just one. Then see how great you feel after completing all six.

I can assure you these sixth truths will lift your self-esteem and confidence to a new level. Remember, we are more than we allow ourselves to be. We were not put here to be failures. We are here for a specific purpose. Find your purpose and let your AWESOME shine.