Be the person you want to come home to.

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Lori Vowels Photography

I’m sad to say that for far too many years my unhappiness was everyone else’s fault. I knew I would be happy if I had a different job. I would be happy when the kids were older, so I didn’t have to do everything for them. I would be happier if my husband would help more around the house. I would be happier if this person driving in front of me would at least drive the speed limit. Everyone around me controlled the power to make me happy, but they weren’t cooperating. That’s a tough way to live. What’s even worse is, I was not aware that I was doing this. It seemed as if the majority of people I knew lived this way. They talked negatively about their circumstances, their relationships, and their work. It just seemed like I was living life the way it was meant to be lived. I was wrong.

The first key to making change in your life is deciding that you need change. One of my first decisions was to be the person that I wanted to come home to. Think about what you want to come home to after a long day. I wanted the house straightened up, homework finished, dinner cooked, and someone to meet me at the door with a smile and a hug. Today, I try to be that person for my husband and kids. No one wants to walk in and be blown out of the water by negatives and stress. Our homes are our safe havens. We should make them feel that way. Thinking of myself less and others more have made me a better person. We are all made with selfish tendencies so this is not an automatic switch. At times I still fail, but I pick myself up and try again.

Put yourself in other people’s shoes today. It’s a wonderful feeling to be a giver instead of a taker. I still need to remind myself of what I need to be doing at home, but it’s slowly forming into a new habit. Let me know what changes you are making at your home today. You can leave a comment below or send me an email at
jenny@jenniferhester.com Make your home your safe haven and show your family how awesome you are.

  • wow, this is definitely impactful. I see far too many people who think like you used to. What helped you make the change?

    • Hey Allan thanks for your comment. I decided to make these changes when I began my self-awareness journey and saw myself in a realistic light. Reading personal development books also showed me my behavior was not what it should be. This new awareness opened my eyes to needed change in my life. The change has been positive and has helped my relationships grow and be more positive as well. Thanks for the great question.